Field Notes

Patterns, named. From the work.

Short essays from our clinical team on the everyday patterns that don’t make it into textbooks. Some of these will sound like you. Some won’t. That’s the point.

Molly Binenfeld Molly Binenfeld

Shedding labels: Growing from the anxious one to defining your own role

Despite all the effort you’ve put into therapy, the growth that you’ve experienced in your life, no one seems to notice except you. While people in your system may be slow to catch on, remember that other peoples’ ability to adapt to your changed behavior will likely be slow, and that your progress is still valid!

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Yasi Razban Yasi Razban

Embracing Your Lived Experience

By learning to embrace our lived experience, we release the pressure that we “should” be a certain way and, instead, we just be. We learn to accept that “negative” emotions can exist without tearing us apart… without weighing us down.

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Stephanie Gonzalez Stephanie Gonzalez

Boundaries are love

The foundation of boundary setting is created through intention and care for yourself. There are many needs that you may be sacrificing in order to please those around you. As a result, you spend more time living for others than building a life that is truly aligned with your happiness and peace.

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Jasmeet Bhullar Jasmeet Bhullar

Authenticity: The key to a healthy relationship

When you regularly accept your partner giving you less than what you deserve in an argument (or in a relationship), you are training your partner to say/do more things that do not meet your needs.

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Fidel Quintanilla Fidel Quintanilla

Why am I the only one with this problem?

The hardest part of anxiety and depression can be believing that you are the only person with these problems, or thinking you have a “me problem.” In fact, most of the issues people have are “we problems.”

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Molly Binenfeld Molly Binenfeld

Party of 1: The truth about change in therapy

What happens when I change but the people around me stay the same? Don’t they have to change, too? The short answer is: to see benefits and experience growth in therapy, the only thing that needs to change is you.

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Stephanie Gonzalez Stephanie Gonzalez

Discovering your Identity in Therapy

In therapy, the hope is you have a safe place to explore and get to know every part of yourself. You will discover the parts of you that you want to keep and strengthen and identify the parts of you that you are ready to let go.

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Harper White Harper White

Why do I feel so anxious in my new relationship?

If you spend the majority of your time wondering what your partner thinks of you, you are likely forgetting to ask yourself how you feel about the relationship and if your partner is able to meet your needs.

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Jasmeet Bhullar Jasmeet Bhullar

To the People who Don’t Lose

When you tell yourself losing is not an option, you’re really just denying reality and changing the rules of the game. The key to healthy relationships is accepting reality which sometimes means taking an L for the team and stepping up to lead better next time.

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Stephanie Gonzalez Stephanie Gonzalez

Starting Therapy in your 20s & 30s?

Since starting therapy, I’ve learned how to set boundaries with my loved ones, have a say in my life, and form an identity that is based on my own values, not just the values I was raised with.

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Harper White Harper White

What is Psychodynamic Therapy?

Psychodynamic therapy helps people gain insight into their thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and key relationships to reduce their distress and improve their quality of life. Therapists who practice the more modern, psychodynamic therapy, make the process feel natural, collaborative, and comfortable.

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Jasmeet Bhullar Jasmeet Bhullar

What do our patterns say about us?

What happens when we consistently use the same behaviors, make the same choices, and then find ourselves in the same situations? This is how we truly establish patterns.

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Stephanie Gonzalez Stephanie Gonzalez

I am nervous about starting therapy!

Nervous about starting therapy for the first time? Therapy is a collaborative process and requires both you and your therapist to develop the therapeutic relationship together.

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Harper White Harper White

Why are relationships so hard in your 20s and 30s?

Navigating the ins and outs of romantic relationships can be tough at any age. In addition, people in their 20’s and 30’s often encounter unique circumstances that make relationships feel daunting and confusing.

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